Friday, July 20, 2012

Spoon of Hope

For those of you who, like me, are battling what society views as an 'invisible illness,' you know how hard-emotionally, mentally, and physically-it can be to just wake up day after day; you're tired, in pain, depressed, and so many other things.

But you still do it regardless.

Then, as if that wasn't enough to deal with, you have to deal with the people that just don't understand.

"Well, WHY can't you hang out today?"

"You can't be THAT tired; you didn't really do anything!"

"You just need to get out more. That'll fix you right up."

How do you explain to those type of people what you go through on a day to day basis? The sacrifices you make because you're too tired or in pain to brush your teeth or take a shower, let alone venture into the outside world?

Thanks to Christine Miserandino of, those of us who have trouble explaining these things now have a secret weapon-The Spoon Theory.

**I recommend for this post to make sense you read through Christine's The Spoon Theory post**

I love The Spoon Theory and the story behind it. Recently, I used it to explain to my boyfriend a little about how I live my life and the decisions I have to make on a daily basis. He picked it up quite quickly, too! Now when I'm not feeling good or having to make a tough decision, he'll ask, "How many spoons do you have left?"

As you all know I spent a few days over at his house at the beginning of the week; I was unfortunately not doing good at all. One night he saw how much pain I was in and told me he would be right back. He came back, grabbed a sharpie from his dresser top and turned his back to me. I could tell he was writing something, but I had no idea what! He told me to close my eyes and hold out my hand; I felt him lower something into my open palm and when he told me to open my eyes, this is what I found:

Note that the clear tape was added after the fact; I didn't want that wonderful writing to wipe away!

Just one more reason to add to the ever growing list why I'm madly, head-over-heels in love with my boyfriend ^.^


Co-Pilot Mom said...

I have never heard of The Spoon Theory before. Your post has given me a new understanding.

And what a thoughtful gift for your boyfriend to give you!

Colette S said...

I'm going to go read the spoon theory.

I am in awe of that boy of yours. I hope my daughter will have someone as thoughtful and caring as he is.

What a blessing.


XmasDolly said...

Okay, okay, OKAY ALREADY! you have my approval! He can stay BUT HE SHOULD'VE GIVEN YOU A TABLESPOON!!! ~snicker-snicker~ He's a good boy, but I'm still not sure he deserves you! Teaspoon indeed! You tell him to get you one of those great big ladles and we'll talk business here! soft hugs!!! loves U lots!

Karen Mitchell said...

You definitely have a "keeper" there! Both the man and the spoon :)

Jennifer S. said...

AWE!!! You two are so cute. I am so happy for you that you found such a great, understanding guy! It's horrible that you have to go through so much, but at least you have loving support. I have to go read the spoon theory now... very intrigued!

Terra Heck said...

The Spoon Theory is a great way to explain things. It's great that you have such a supportive boyfriend and that was very nice of him.

Unknown said...

oh Kayla, thank you, THANK YOU for letting me know about the spoon theory, it's really an easy way to explain what I go through with Gabriel.....there is just so much that I can ask him to endure during the day and there are bad days and good days!
I love love LOVE the spoon of hope that Jake gave you.....thoughtful and sweet!