Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Too Young To Marry?

Even though I just turned 21 years old this past November and by pretty much all accounts, that's adulthood, or at the very least, the beginning of adulthood, there are certain things that I still don't consider myself "adult" enough to do.

Wait, I shouldn't say that.

Let me try to explain better:: There are certain things that adults do, that even though I'm considered an adult at the age of 21, I STILL can't even fathom myself doing.

Case in point-Marriage.

When I think about marriage, I think, "Whoa there buddy, there is no way I'm getting married at my age! I'm way to young for this!" In my mind, I still think of myself at age 16 where marriage is concerned; not even a blip on my life's radar yet. However, when I stop, remember my true age, and really think about it, it's a complete possibility if I want it to be.

Several friends my age and even a few months younger then me are already engaged, and two of them just got married within the past 6 months-One in December and one just this March!

I'm sitting here on the sidelines with a boggled mind, looking at their Engagement Rings, and wedding pictures and thinking to myself, this is real; we're at the age where we CAN choose to get married and we CAN choose to have children, and many other cans that still seem impossible to me just yet.

Of course, none of this is for me at this given point in my life, but it always stop-me-in-my-track amazes me to realize that if I wanted it to be for me, then it could.

Photo courtesy of Abazias Diamons.

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Eschelle Westwood Mumfection said...

sometimes life just happens when it happens a time frame usually never works.

I met my love at 18, started having kids at 19 and now i'm 23 with two amazing boys. Ironically the same age my grandmother started having kids.

sometimes you just CAN'T plan life.

Kathleen W. said...

I got married at 25, which was a good age for me. I think I was too immature to do it younger than that, or maybe too selfish!

Dee said...

Take your time and do it when you feel the time is right. I was 28 when I got married, and so enjoyed my time before then, lol.

Colette S said...

I like your confidence in yourself. people should step back and think about their lives like that instead of being hauled into decisions, they aren't 100% sure of and then have so many regrets.

I think young adults should take the time to enjoy their lives before commiting to marriage and children. I still wished I had done that.

I remember when I became an adult in age, I thought of many things like you did too and it was about movies and men and life in general.

Love your outlook.

Anonymous said...

That's a gorgeous ring! :))

On a side note...talk it from your slightly older, more seasoned friend...Wait till you're at least 28. Trust me!

Bonita12 said...

I got married when I was 25 and I think that is too young now. I always tell my sons to wait until 27 or so. Don't feel pressured by what your friends are doing.

You are very mature in your thinking and will know when the time is right.

Unknown said...

Awesome ring! I understand where you come from, yet again I did get married at 21 and I had a baby on the way....even tho it wasn't a "blip in my radar". one day just happened lol

You're growing and maturing, nothing wrong with that and nothing wrong in waiting and "smelling the roses"

Jennifer S. said...

I vote for taking your time for sure! As you know I am getting married soon and I am 32. Thank goodness I waited!!! Not only did I enjoy the heck out of my twenties, but I also changed - a lot!!! Now I feel like I have "grown into" myself a lot more and know what I want. That's my opinion. ;)

Lorie Shewbridge said...

I got married the first time at age 20 and I was WAY too young, but didn't know what I was doing. I has an abusive father and then ended up moving into the home of an abusive husband.
That said, some 20 year olds have been through so much that they are much more mature at that age and can make a good decision about getting married. As for you, you have been dealing with your health issues for so long, that you truly are more mature than women your age, and your writing proves it. Take your time and you'll know when it's right.
BTW, gorgeous rings on that site.